Saturday, 9 August 2014

Ball gags

Today's post will be a sexual discussion on ball gags. Just my humble opinions though. 

(Which I personally find it super arousing when you or your partner has to wear one and drools down the body) 

Don't you think these girls are more sexy with the drools out and display that helpless sultry look. 










Ball gags actually works great for beginner soft bdsm couples... Cause it will increase the helplessness and vulnerability, and will  increase dependency on his/her master, which increase the sexual arousal for both parties. The sub will get the thrill out of being gagged by a restraint and he is under the control of the master (with extra bondage) 


Personally I like the scene of saliva dripping out of the sub. It's sensual and makes the sub looks horny and wanton at the same time. I'm pretty sure somewhere below is dripping wet as well.  The sub will feel humiliated from his saliva dribbling down and feel "owned" whenever the master do anything to him. The gag itself will allow the sub to have a strong feeling to surrender and lost power to its master. It's instantly can make some subs really turned on. 









I'm so gonna try on Francis! (I saw that he kept a ball gag in his wardrobe the other day, but I didn't question him at all, shall surprise him again next time) 


The relationship between me and Francis is really amiable and good, after our session, We don't behave like Dom/sub anymore and we respect each other a lot and even hug & went out for dinner together like a normal couple. No one will suspect anything ;) 


Thursday, 7 August 2014

Bdsm journey- Francis 1

Guess what guys, after me and A split up, I'm all into bdsm . And of course, I love being the Dom. And I found one toyboy for me to play with, he's my new boy for now. He's a cute French living and working in sg. I'm so happy to meet my submissive now.


Today I met him, but I forgot to take pictures. I used the candle and dripped hot wax onto his ass and thigh. He trembled at every wax dripped down on his lovely cute bottom. it was soooo intense and he was really horny after that. 

Francis : thanks mistress

Me: no problem, u deserve them don't you? 

Francis: anything I will do to serve you mistress. 

(His English is not very good and has a very strong French accent but I like him anyway) 


And then I made him count out his lashings cause he was late when we meet. His punishment was 40 whips from belt. I made him lie on the bed and his cute red ass is served to me. How delightful. I casually beat his big cock and balls as well. 

Did I mentioned that his precum is leaking out non stop during the whole ordeal? I used my fingertip and touched it, rubbed around and wiped his slut juice up with my finger and put it in his thirsty mouth. He sucked it clean and thorough and was craving for more. 

Then I trained his tongue skillfully too. I do not allow him to stop. I gave clear instruction that he must lick my lovepot until I orgasm. He was tied up and went on licking for a good 20 minutes, he was sooo wet and drenched with my love juice. 


His glorious 11inch dick was standing all the way throughout the session. He was surprised to see me so sexy in real life. 


I used him in the end and allowed him to cum, to reward him for his good performance as my little slave.

I'll try to take a picture of his dick... The next time :)

Bdsm article : practitioners of bdsm is healthier than non-practitioners.

Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don't.

A new study finds that practitioners of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, score better on a variety of personality and psychological measures than "vanilla" people who don't engage in unusual sex acts. BDSM is a sexual practice that revolves around those four fetishes.

BDSM is listed in the DSM-5, the newest edition of the definitive psychiatrist's manual, as a paraphilia, or unusual sexual fixation — a label that has caused controversy between kinky communities and psychiatrists, who themselves are mixed on whether sexual predilections belong in the catalog of mental disorders. As written, the DSM-5 does not label BDSM a disorder unless it causes harm to the practitioner or to others. [Hot Stuff? 10 Unusual Sexual Fixations]




Nevertheless, some psychiatrists see the inclusion of BDSM and other kinks in the manual as stigmatizing, particularly because studies have failed to show evidence that enjoying sex with a side of pain is linked to psychological problems. The new study, published May 16 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, finds that, in fact, BDSM practitioners may be better off psychologically than the general public.

BDSM practitioners "either did not differ from the general population and if they differed, they always differed in the more favorable direction," said study researcher Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands who conducted the research while at Tilburg University.

Wismeijer did not set out to study the psychological health of BDSM aficionados. His research typically focuses on the psychology of secrets and secrecy. A chance meeting with the founder of the Netherlands' largest BDSM Web forum convinced him the group might make an interesting study population to look at how secrets are kept and who keeps them.

Wismeijer and his colleagues put out a request on the forum for people in the BDSM "scene" to take a variety of psychological questionnaires online. They also sought participants who didn't do BDSM via a women's magazine website, a personal secret website and a university website.

Healthy fixation?

None of the participants knew what the surveys were about, other than they were on "human behavior." All told, 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 vanilla (non-BDSM) participants filled out questionnaires on personality, sensitivity to rejection, style of attachment in relationships and well-being.

The researchers chose these baseline measures because previous research on those in the BDSM community has focused on dire outcomes — whether they're more likely to have mental disorders or report rape and abuse compared with the general public. (They aren't, studies have found.)

The new results reveal that on a basic level, BDSM practitioners don't appear to be more troubled than the general population. They were more extroverted, more open to new experiences and more conscientious than vanilla participants; they were also less neurotic, a personality trait marked by anxiety. BDSM aficionados also scored lower than the general public on rejection sensitivity, a measure of how paranoid people are about others disliking them.

People in the BDSM scene reported higher levels of well-being in the past two weeks than people outside it, and they reported more secure feelings of attachment in their relationships, the researchers found.

Of the BDSM practitioners, 33 percent of the men reported being submissive, 48 percent dominant and 18 percent "switch," or willing to switch between submissive and dominant roles in bed. About 75 percent of the female BDSM respondents were submissive, 8 percent dominant and 16 percent switch. [10 Surprising Sex Statistics]

These roles showed some links to psychological health, such that dominants tended to score highest in all quarters, submissives lowest and switches in the middle. However, submissives never scored lower than vanilla participants on mental health, and frequently scored higher, Wismeijer told LiveScience.

"Within the BDSM community, [submissives] were always perceived as the most vulnerable, but still, there was not one finding in which the submissives scored less favorable than the controls," he said.

Sexual health

The study is somewhat limited by a self-selecting response pool and by the fact that BDSM practitioners could have been answering in ways to make themselves look better and avoid stigma, Wismeijer said — though the fact that the participants didn't know the reasons for the study ameliorates that concern somewhat. The findings are reason for mental health professionals to take an accepting approach to BDSM practitioners, Wismeijer said.

"We did not have any findings suggesting that people who practice BDSM have a damaged psychological profile or have some sort of psychopathology or personality disorder," he said.

Wismeijer isn't exactly sure why BDSM practitioners might be psychologically healthier than the general public. They tend to be more aware of their sexual needs and desires than vanilla people, he said, which could translate to less frustration in bed and in relationships. Coming to terms with their unusual sexual predilections and choosing to live the BDSM lifestyle may also take hard psychological work that translates to positive mental health, he said.

One study alone shouldn't determine whether a condition is placed in the DSM or not, Wismeijer said, but added that combined with other research, the new findings suggest BDSM is better seen as a lifestyle choice, if a slightly strange one.

"I'm not so convinced that BDSM should be placed within the DSM-5," he said.


ARTICLE FROM http://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html 



Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Driving tease




I placed my hands onto his crotch, while he's driving. It was rocking hard underneath and the raging cock is trapped inside the double layers of boxer and pants, waiting for me to release. 


I unzipped his pants and revealed his boxers and shifted down to take a good view of his glorious cock, and i begin grabbing his dick in my hands, stroking up and down while he shakes a little. It's hard to concentrate on driving this way I suppose.... . 



I can see the urge in his eyes, and the exploding dick in front of me. So I decided that i should go down and have a taste of his juice stick when we were stopping  at a traffic light. He was so uptight that the neighbouring cars might be able to see this. But I couldn't  care any further. 

i licked like a sexy kitten while his precum keep oozing out... Then put this huge dick against my lips, rubbed it around and swirled it with my glistening saliva and then opened my lips to slide my precious manhood into my tiny mouth fully .

Bf: baby, I can't focus anymore.. Ahh... 


Me: (suck harder) 


Bf was moaning while driving. I was such a cock teaser.


;) 

Went upstairs and I did a striptease in the bedroom, dancing and grinding him with my ass. and he went wild over me, held my hands up above my head and tied it up with any clothing he found. Then went pumping me all over again and released all his  cum all over my hot butt. 



Thursday, 31 July 2014

Q & A Thursday

Hello I am back and will be answering a few intimate questions, so I will keep updating the list as more readers ask me questions :) you can email me with any questions you want to know and I will try to answer them here.




#1.  Are you alone? 

Right now yes . 


#2.   Do you like cuddling when you lie in bed? 

Yes , with the right person & that he don't smell bad haha! 


#3. What do you wear when you go to bed? 

I usually wear a cute pajamas dress when I'm at home,  wears silk night gowns when I'm at A's place, wears oversized tee with just panty at bf's house. 


#4. What do you think you look sexiest in? 

Probably when I'm just in my lacy lingerie... And thongs


#5.  Do you like boxers or briefs? 

Both is good as long as its clean.. Boxers allow easier access to my grabs haha while briefs are generally sexier to look at. 




#6. What’s your secret move to turn a guy on? 

Hmmm kissing him all over that body....




#7. If there’s one place a guy should touch you to make you horny, which is that? 


Head south. ;)



#8.    Do you love massages? 

Yes I love getting massages on my neck and back 




#9.  Trimmed, shaved or natural? 

Trimmed and shaven 



#10. Deepest fantasies... 

1. Having threesome MMF 
2.  Soft Bdsm 


Fantasy story part B

as i inhale the sweet scent of the moist prize, my hand slowly remove the final layer, the lacy panties. blowing hot air at the entrance, my finger traces the inner thighs, making you shiver from the sensation. right before my eyes, seeing love juice flowing out, my tongue proceeds to lap all the juice, carefully avoiding those sensitive lips and clitoris. feeling my tongue all over the place, except at the most sensitive part drives you to beg me. Beg me to make you cum, make you rise up the heaven and reach the peak. 

after teasing for another minute or so, you forcefully guiding my head to your pussy. at the first touch, with the tongue attacking the lips, sending you over for the first time. as your orgasm and juice squirting, i continue the next attack on your clit, sending you on another wave as before you even got over the first orgasm. your body shivering, legs clamping on my head harder as i continue to lap up your juice, will the tongue works on the clit and the lips. after feeling the height of the orgasm for a good few minutes, you start to calm down from the sensation ....

to be continued.... 

Wednesday, 23 July 2014

Fantasy story

A reader emailed me with is lovely fantasy of ours...



as we embrace in a deep passionate kiss, my hands roams to all over your body. feeling every curve, my fingers running ever so lightly across your exposed delicate skin. sending shivers down your spine with each and every touch, never once breaking the kiss. removing piece by piece as we stumbled through the place, clothes all over. by the time we reach the coach, you are the naked goddess before me. your bosoms hanging freely, forbidden fruits to be savor by me. 
as i slowly lay you down, i slowly move down and starts to devour your pink tits. flicking them so slightly, sending you into small shivers at each flick of the nipple. as i caress the soft tender breast, my kisses move down south. pass your belly button, till it reaches right above the prize...


Shall wait for him to continue the second part ;)